An OnlyFans model who makes $250,000 a month has revealed her number one rule in dating is to always have sex on the first date – and she claims men love her “direct” approach.
Kazumi, 25, from Miami, Florida, US, happily shares details from her own life to encourage other women to expand their horizons, having made headlines in the past for gifting an ex-boyfriend a threesome.
Now, the sex-positive model, who was brought up as a strict Christian, has shared why she always puts out on the first date and why she thinks others should too.
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“Most guys are happy that I’m so direct,” Kazumi, who has 118,000 followers on Instagram (@itskazumisworld), told NudeNewz.
“I like to have sex on the first date to get the awkward part out of the way.
“Some of the most amazing first dates I’ve had are where we’ve had sex and then had a more comfortable experience hanging out after, because we’re both relaxed and the sexual tension is diffused.
“I want to remove the stigma attached to having a high number of sexual partners. Like, who cares?
“I’m safe, use protection and get tested regularly – it’s about having fun.”
The Reverse Dating Timeline
Kazumi believes people will act a certain way if they’re only interested in one thing, which is mostly sex.
While she speaks to her love interests before meeting up, she believes already establishing the purpose of their date can help both parties feel more relaxed.
She said: “Personally, I talk to people quite a bit before meeting up as I’ve already established an interest, as well as why I like them.
“If I didn’t, I wouldn’t move forward and meet up with them and I feel like after sex, people act more like themselves.
“I don’t like to eat before sex as I feel self-conscious and tired afterwards, [so I invite them over to mine first].
“I feel like I have sex with people a few times before we level up to going on an actual date.”
Kazumi’s approach inverts traditional dating progression, where dinner and conversation precede physical intimacy.
Her belief that “people act more like themselves” after sex suggests she views the physical act as removing pretence rather than creating vulnerability.
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Like other creators who challenge conventional relationship norms, Kazumi frames her approach as efficiency rather than promiscuity.
Mixed Male Reactions
Despite her confidence, not all men respond positively to Kazumi’s directness.
She said: “A lot [of men] are surprised or think I’m trying to trick them and sometimes, they think I’m a slut – which is hypocritical.
“However a lot of men appreciate the directness because they find that a lot of women aren’t very forward or secure with their sexuality.”
The paradox of men simultaneously wanting women to be sexually available whilst judging them as “sluts” for that availability reflects ongoing double standards around sexuality.
Kazumi’s experience suggests that even when women offer what men ostensibly want – no-strings sex without games – some men become suspicious or dismissive.
Her label of this reaction as “hypocritical” acknowledges the impossible standard women face: be sexual but not too sexual, be available but maintain mystery.
Religious Rebellion Origins
Much of Kazumi’s sexual attitude is due to her upbringing, having rebelled against her religious beliefs as a teenager.
She said: “I was brought up in a religious household and my parents were very strict.
“I was pretty nerdy and I so desperately wanted to get laid but wasn’t allowed to go on dates or hang out with boys.
“At the time, I really wanted a boyfriend but I was also socially awkward and boys at my school thought I was pretty weird.
“I turned to the internet and chatted with strangers online by webcam, which is probably why I’m so comfortable sexting with guys on OnlyFans.
“I don’t care about money, dick size or anything, I only care about guys who are nice and funny to be around.”
Kazumi’s journey from nerdy, socially awkward Christian teenager to sex-positive OnlyFans millionaire represents a complete inversion of her childhood programming.
Her early experiences with webcamming as a sexually repressed teenager directly led to her comfort with digital sexual expression – the foundation of her OnlyFans career.
The strict religious upbringing that aimed to control her sexuality instead created someone determined to explore it without limits.
No Shame in Her Game
As for potentially being labelled promiscuous, the sex-positive model doesn’t care about other people’s opinions and champions women embracing their sexuality.
Kazumi has gone to sex clubs, had orgies and tried every position under the sun and has no plans to stop enjoying herself.
She added: “I date mature men and I feel like being honest, as well as direct about my needs, is a great way to establish the notion that I am confident.
“I know what I want early on in the relationship and if I detect any stupidity, we aren’t dating.
“You miss 100% of the ‘lays’ you never take.
“If he doesn’t respect you after sex, he likely didn’t respect you before either.”
The Logic of First Date Sex
Kazumi’s philosophy centres on using sex as a filter rather than a prize.
Her argument that men who lose respect after sex never had it to begin with reframes the traditional wisdom about “making him wait”.
By having sex immediately, she claims to expose men’s true intentions faster, saving time wasted on those only interested in the chase.
The approach assumes that genuine compatibility will survive – or even benefit from – immediate physical intimacy, whilst superficial connections will collapse quickly.
Whether this strategy actually filters for quality partners or simply normalises casual encounters depends on one’s relationship goals.
The Threesome Ex-Boyfriend Gift
Kazumi’s past headline-making gesture of gifting an ex-boyfriend a threesome demonstrates her commitment to sexual openness extending beyond her own experiences.
The willingness to facilitate her partner’s fantasies – even ones involving other women – reflects either extraordinary sexual confidence or performance of non-jealousy for public consumption.
Such gestures contribute to Kazumi’s brand as maximally sex-positive, potentially attracting both admirers and critics in equal measure.
$250,000 Monthly Success
Kazumi’s substantial OnlyFans income likely influences how potential partners view her first-date sex policy.
Men may wonder whether they’re genuinely connecting with Kazumi or becoming content for her platform and social media.
Her claim not to care about “money, dick size or anything” – only personality – stands in interesting tension with her career monetising sexuality.
The financial independence her OnlyFans success provides likely enables her direct approach, removing pressure to date for security or validation.
Sex Clubs, Orgies and Exploration
Kazumi’s extensive sexual experimentation – including sex clubs and orgies – places her far outside mainstream sexual behaviour.
These experiences inform her belief that traditional dating timelines serve no purpose, having already explored sexual scenarios most people never encounter.
Her openness about these activities further cements her public persona as someone who’s genuinely lived the sex-positive philosophy she preaches rather than simply performing it.
The Confidence Test
Kazumi frames her first-date sex rule as a confidence indicator – both for herself and potential partners.
Men who respond positively demonstrate comfort with sexually assertive women, whilst those who become suspicious or judgemental reveal incompatibility immediately.
For Kazumi, the approach serves as efficient vetting, though critics might argue it selects for men seeking casual sex rather than relationships.
Her insistence that amazing dates happen after sex, once tension is diffused, suggests she genuinely believes this sequence creates better connections.
The “Stupidity” Filter
Kazumi’s stated willingness to end potential relationships at the first sign of “stupidity” reveals high standards despite her casual approach to sex.
This combination – sexually available but intellectually demanding – challenges stereotypes about women who have first-date sex being desperate or undiscerning.
Her requirement that men be “nice and funny to be around” suggests she’s seeking genuine compatibility beyond physical attraction.
For now, Kazumi continues her first-date sex policy, navigating mixed reactions whilst building her $250,000 monthly OnlyFans empire – proof that you can write your own dating rules and still find success, even if traditionalists disapprove.
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