A woman who proudly embraces a traditional housewife role has revealed her childhood friends accuse her of losing her “dignity as a woman”.
Monica Huldt, 37, from Scottsdale, Arizona, considers herself a real-life “Stepford wife” dedicated to putting her husband John’s needs first.
The Swedish-born model, who has 220,000 Instagram followers, says she’s always dreamed of this lifestyle despite facing criticism from both men and women.
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“I’ve never been a woman that has strived to have a huge career,” Monica told Jam Press.
“I don’t want to work to be honest – I love being a housewife and taking care of my husband.”
However, her choices have sparked fierce debate, with friends suggesting she’s betrayed feminist principles.
The Stepford Wife Dream
Monica, originally from Malmö, Sweden, knew from a young age she wanted to be a devoted wife.
After watching the film The Stepford Wives, she found her relationship blueprint.
“Ever since I saw that movie The Stepford Wives, I knew I wanted my life to be exactly like that,” she said.
Now married to John, 39, Monica has built the lifestyle she always envisioned.
Her days revolve around household management, fitness, and caring for her husband.
Facing the Critics
Monica’s lifestyle choices haven’t been universally accepted by those who know her.
She recently appeared in a YouTube video revealing childhood friends claim she’s lost her dignity.
“Women too will say I’m being crazy, or that I’m a disgrace to other women,” she said.
“But I don’t care – it’s my life and I love it.”
Even some romantic partners couldn’t accept her traditional aspirations.
“One of my exes wasn’t fond of that idea – so that’s why he’s now an ex,” Monica explained.
The criticism extends beyond her personal circle to broader social media commentary.
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A Typical Day
Monica’s daily routine centres on domestic responsibilities and personal maintenance.
She works out five times weekly and manages all household tasks.
Cooking features prominently in her role, with her husband having clear expectations.
“John loves my cooking,” she said.
“He always says food is my department and he just wants a nice dinner.
“If he asks me for something specific, he always gets what he wants.”
Her husband also has preferences about her appearance at home.
“John likes me to dress nicely at home, like sexy-sporty, and he doesn’t like me wearing make-up around the house,” Monica revealed.
Rather than resenting these preferences, she embraces them.
“Some women might not like being told what to do or wear but I love it when he gives me instructions,” she said.
“When I deliver, it makes him happy – and in turn that makes me happy.”
Defending Her Choices
When confronted with accusations that her lifestyle is regressive or degrading, Monica remains unmoved.
“I don’t think it’s degrading at all,” she said.
“I think that men and women are created differently and there’s really nothing wrong with embracing that fact.”
She believes modern society has moved away from arrangements that once worked well.
“We have lived like that for centuries – it’s only now that this way of life is frowned upon,” Monica argued.
Her submission extends to intimate aspects of their marriage as well.
“When it comes to the bedroom I am very submissive and he’s dominant,” she said.
“I like it when a man takes charge and takes what he wants.”
Like other women who’ve chosen non-traditional relationship dynamics, Monica emphasizes consent and mutual satisfaction.
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The Financial Reality
Despite positioning herself as a traditional housewife, Monica generates substantial income through modelling.
She opened her OnlyFans account in 2017 but only began using it seriously in 2020.
Now she ranks among the platform’s top earners.
Her “trad wife” persona has proven popular with her subscriber base.
“I appreciate my fans a lot,” she said.
“I wouldn’t be where I am without them and I love that they don’t judge me or my choice to take care of my husband the way I do.”
Many subscribers are married men who express dissatisfaction with their own relationships.
“In fact, I talk to a lot of married men who say they aren’t fully content in their relationships because they wish their wives would pay them more attention,” Monica revealed.
“A lot of men find it attractive.”
Husband as Business Partner
John actively supports Monica’s online career despite its unconventional nature.
“My husband is super supportive; he helps me with photo editing and coming up with ideas,” she said.
“If he wasn’t as supportive as he is, we wouldn’t be where we are.”
His involvement demonstrates the partnership underlying their traditional arrangement.
“I might be a housewife but we are a team,” Monica added.
The couple uses her income for travel experiences and reinvesting in the business.
They describe themselves as non-materialistic despite maintaining a luxurious home.
Three Benefits of Traditional Marriage
Monica identifies specific advantages to her lifestyle choice.
First, personal care becomes easier with flexible scheduling.
“I work out five times a week because my timetable allows me to, I don’t have to worry about rushing home from work,” she explained.
Second, the dynamic strengthens marital bonds through mutual dedication.
“You’re dedicating your life to make him happy the same way he’s working to make you happy,” she said.
“It’s that equal consideration towards each other that makes you close.”
Third, the arrangement provides parenting advantages.
“Living like a ‘trad wife’ means you’ll have the advantage of seeing your kids grow up. You’ll be there for them all the time,” Monica added.
Future Parenting Plans
Though currently childless, Monica and John have discussed their parenting philosophy.
“When we have children I will absolutely raise them very traditionally,” she said.
“If we have a girl, I’ll teach her everything I know on how to be a good wife and my husband will do the same with our son.”
These plans would perpetuate traditional gender roles into the next generation.
The Happiness Argument
Monica believes widespread adoption of traditional marriages would increase societal happiness.
“If people didn’t frown upon it so much and just gave it a go, I think they would realise that it works,” she said.
She attributes modern relationship dissatisfaction to rejecting traditional dynamics.
“People are so unhappy today, always looking for the next exciting thing so why not just embrace who we are, the way we were created?” Monica asked.
“We would have less divorces, and I think overall people would be happier.”
She views contemporary gender equality efforts as working against human nature.
“Right now we are striving so hard to go against our nature – people end up being confused,” she said.
Strength in Tradition
Monica rejects the notion that her choices represent weakness.
“I believe that just because a woman chooses to be a trad wife, it doesn’t make her weak,” she said.
“In fact the opposite – it takes strength to defy the norm in today’s society.”
She argues that historical gender roles provided greater satisfaction than modern arrangements.
“I genuinely think women and men were much happier in their traditional roles then they are now,” Monica claimed.
The Feminist Question
Monica pushes back against accusations of anti-feminism.
“It’s not anti-feminist; I’m making the choice to put my husband first and who doesn’t want to be taken care of?” she asked.
Her argument centres on autonomous choice rather than coercion.
“I never have to worry because he looks after me,” she added.
This perspective represents one interpretation of feminist principles – that women should have freedom to choose any lifestyle.
Critics argue that promoting traditional gender roles undermines broader feminist goals of equality.
The Controversy Continues
Monica’s public embrace of submission and traditional roles continues generating strong reactions.
Her YouTube appearance discussing lost dignity sparked renewed debate about women’s choices and feminism.
Some women celebrate her honesty about preferring domestic life over career ambitions.
Others view her lifestyle as setting back progress toward gender equality.
The couple’s dynamic raises questions about power, choice, and happiness in modern relationships.
A Complex Picture
Monica’s situation defies simple categorization.
She’s simultaneously a traditional housewife and a high-earning content creator.
Her husband expects domestic service but also supports her business endeavours.
She submits to his preferences while maintaining financial independence.
This complexity challenges both traditional and progressive relationship models.
Whether her lifestyle represents empowered choice or internalized patriarchy remains hotly debated.
Monica herself remains unbothered by the controversy, content with the life she’s built.
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